Lucas, at 16 months, is now seriously throwing tantrums. He's been showing some not-so-cute behaviors for months now--climbing up the back rest of the couch or the sofa table (especially when he knows we're looking), throwing away stuff, screaming and crying when he doesn't get what he wants. But lately, it has gotten a little worse and I feel that he actually knows what he's doing and he does it on purpose.
So sometimes, when he can't have this way, he would scream and cry and roll on the floor. I don't know how he learned to do this, but when he does it we would not pick him up. We'd let him cry and he eventually stands up and hugs our legs. Other times, he would just want me and not his dad and when I go away, he would wail and cry so hard. He wouldn't let anyone touch him and he would throw away anything he sees nearby that he can pick up. And the wailing would actually last a good 20 minutes or so.
Some people at work told me that I should just let him be because it's normal and it's too early to enforce discipline. I know this is normal at his age, but I don't think I should just let it be. I don't think it's too early to discipline and I feel that something needs to be done about these behaviors. I've got to stop them, maybe gradually, but somehow I've got to nip them in the bud.
Consistency I think is key. If we were consistent about how we respond to these behaviors, then I think it will help him know right from wrong. Question is--are we in synch? I think the dad and I are in synch. I'm not so sure about Nana.
you need to be in synch with nana too liz. you are right, consistency is the key. para nako, starting discipline early is alright. i learned the hard way nga kung dili magkasinabot ang parents on how to raise and discipline kids, gubot gyud.
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